3 Keys To Using Empowering Language

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Why Using Empowering Language Is A Powerful Choice 

empowering languageUsing empowering language to empower yourself is the starting point in the blueprint for success. I mean specifically Jay Kubassek’s 90 day blueprint but his point is that learning to use empowering language is a key part of personal growth. So what does it mean?

It’s obvious that language is one of the main ways we express ourselves. Our words and the way we use have a direct effect on every transaction we have with others. They produce emotional responses and other important signals to the speaker and the listener.

We see examples every day and throughout history of people who mastered the art of using words: Politicians, inspirational speakers, leaders of all kinds – good and bad. They have learned how to use language to produce the responses and results they want. Jay’s point is that anyone who takes the time can learn to use empowering language.

It’s starts with a conscious effort to study the words you use and the effect they have on others. You also need to study the way words directed at you make you feel. It’s easy enough – just take note of how a conversation makes you feel: Drained, happy, uplifted, depressed….

The 3 Basic Components of Empowering Language.

  1. Choosing the right words. This is really a matter of recognizing which words are actually disempowering and consciously replacing them with more empowering words. Everyone is different but the example given by Jay is the word “maybe”. I’d ad that losing non-words like “eh”, “erm..” etc should be  priority.
  2. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Seems simple but how often do we say something without really committing to it? Again “maybe” is a good example: It’s less empowering than saying yes or no to an invitation – and meaning it. You know where you stand and so do others. You become a person of your word which is empowering to you and to others.
  3. Knowing when to speak. Empowering language and silence are closely related. It’s sometimes better to “bite your tongue” than it is to say something in the heat of the moment.
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Myself with Jay Kubassek

Jay Kubassek states that learning to use empowering language and getting rid of words that sabotaged his success has been the key to his kingdom. That’s why it’s the starting point for his blueprint. It has the power to change our view of reality and in fact our view of reality IS our reality.

Using Empowering Language To Change Your Reality

There has been a lot written on this subject. Books like “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself “ by Shad Helmstetter are devoted to it and the whole NLP movement is based on learning to use empowering language. What Jay has done is to stress it’s value to the entrepreneur. He relates it directly to the DEA business programme and lays it out in a step by step study and action plan.

I’ll leave you with one example of empowering language – the one the Jay tells us was the most important to him: Replacing most of his use of the word “But” with more empowering language. If you think about it “but” usually divides two choices, suggesting that only one can be chosen. He replaces it with “and” as often as he can. E.g. “I want a new car BUT I can’t afford it” is replaced by “I want a new car AND I’m doing everything in my power to get it”.

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